I am very excited to introduce Weight Loss Confessions guest blogger Becca Rich today and her amazing article, 5 Ways to Find Time for Self-Care. Self-care is a topic near and dear to my heart because incorporating self-care into my life was absolutely life-changing for me. I shared my self-care story in The Best Advice Anyone Ever Gave Me – (spoiler alert) :). And I hope you find ways to incorporate self-care into your life and enjoy all its amazing benefits.
You’re a mom who’s hustling your butt off all day at work so you can spend time with your family. But the hustle doesn’t seem to end. You spend nights and weekends doing the same thing, hustling to get things done around the house. There’s a desperate need for more dog food, you’re on a deadline for a project, and then the school calls, saying your kiddo is sick and needs to be picked up. Trying to juggle it all isn’t easy. I see you.
Does the rest of your day slip away because of all this stuff? Most often, yes. But you don’t have to let it.
Managing your time and energy better is your solution. It was the solution I needed when I had to go to the hospital from being so sick. Now I feel in charge of my day no matter what happens. And you can too with these 5 ways to find time for self-care when you’re really busy.
What is self-care?
First off, I think it’s really important to discuss what self-care is and isn’t, and why it’s a new trend.
Self-care is anything that helps, heals, or maintains your mental, emotional, and physical
health. This could look like common tasks such as going to the gym, trying to start a meditation habit, or taking a long bubble bath. This could also look like some uncommonly talked about things, such as deep cleaning your house, planning your week ahead, or seeing your therapist.
But self-care is not just one task or skill that works for everyone across the board. You cannot copy the habits of people around you without knowing the purpose or what you want to get out of doing it (unfortunately!)
It’s a mindset or state of being that is completely unique to you and your life. And because your body is so deeply connected to your mind, figuring out what works for you on an individual level can feel daunting. This post will also help you shift your mindset around self-care and find what truly works for you.
So, why is self-care a trend that is taking off now?
We used to be taught (and some still are) to put ourselves last on our to-do lists. As a society, we are recovering from this. We are becoming more aware of our needs and openly talking about them. (Which is so amazing and beautiful!) People are realizing they need to refuel themselves and feel their best so they can treat people better, be a better parent or partner, eat healthier, etc. And once you start the cycle, you continue to do more of the things that make you feel good, when you feel good. The hard part is starting the cycle and staying in it.
Here are the 5 ways to find time for self-care when you’re really busy:
Shift your mindset around self-care.
*You have to make it a non-negotiable. It doesn’t matter how busy or tired you
are, you absolutely need to do something for yourself every day.
*But the good news is that it doesn’t have to take a lot of time, energy, or effort. It
could just be taking a big deep breath. It could be reading this article. It could be
going to bed without your phone. Self-care is anything that helps, heals, or
maintains your mental, emotional, and physical health, there is no limit on what it
looks like or needs to be.
*How do you know if something helps, heals, or maintains your mental, emotional,
and physical health? You ask yourself, “Will this help future me?” This small
question has helped me create a self-care habit that keeps me at my best and far
far away from burnout. It helps you take back control of your actions and life and
have more self-compassion for yourself.
Now maybe you’re asking, how do you know if it will help future you? You need to know where you want to go (aka goal setting).
*My favorite quote is by Yogi Berra. He says, “If you don’t know where you are
going, you’ll end up someplace else.” If you don’t know who you want to be or
what you want to do as a result of finding time for self-care, then you’ll never do it.
*You need to have or create a vision for you and your life that is deeply
meaningful and emotionally connecting. What do you want your life, health,
relationships, career to look like? Connect with your vision daily and don’t
underestimate the power of vision!
*If you have a goal to lose weight for example – you need to make it emotionally
connecting and fun. Instead of “I want to lose 10 lbs” you could say “I want to
lose 10 lbs so I can run around with my son in the backyard.”
*Also, when you’re a mom, entrepreneur, or friend (all of us fit in at least one
category) it is necessary and very helpful to demonstrate the importance of taking
care of yourself to set an example. This could be your long-term vision.
*Because you know what your long-term vision is, saying no to the things that
don’t support it will become easier and easier.
*Creating a solid foundation in terms of mindset is important but life still can get in the way. One of the biggest stressors in people’s lives comes from being overwhelmed by the million things they need to get done. When you don’t feel in control over your to-do list, you start to feel hopeless. So how do we solve this?
The good news is the antidote for overwhelm is to check-in and do something for yourself.
However, on a more tangible level…
Schedule time for self-care every single week.
For the next 90 days (3 months) pick 1-3 things you want or need to accomplish to get closer to your vision.
Before each week, figure out what you need to make a non-negotiable and hold your self to it.
I have created a PDF you can download that will help you plan your most
productive week in 10 minutes or less. This weekly planner will help you
get everything you need to do done and find time for self-care when you’re
really busy (this freebie can be found here)
When delays or distractions happen (because they will) you will need a backup plan. And when you’re tight on time, extremely exhausted, and stressed out you will need a backup plan.
*In these situations, you are way more likely to put yourself on the bottom of the
to-do list again. If you continue to do this, you will most likely get burned out.
*A backup plan is one super small and easy thing you can do that doesn’t take
much time or cost much (if any) money. Using what you know now about
self-care, what can you (and will you actually) do for yourself when you’re
stressed and exhausted? How will you remember your back up plan?
Learning how to recognize and celebrate every single SMALL imperfect action you take. Just by doing this, that’s self-care.
In the comments, tell us what you resonated within this post. Also, share what your backup plan is? What will you do when you’re stressed out and exhausted?
Becca Rich is a Holistic Time Management Coach. She works with hard-working and
passionate entrepreneurs who want to take back control of their day and get more work done in less time, so they can grow their business with the life balance they’re longing for. You can find her at beccarichwellness.com or on Instagram @beccarichwellness